Parents in North Carolina and throughout the country who choose to get divorced may worry about the impact it could have on their children. Fortunately, there are steps that can be taken to help a child understand what is happening and process it in a healthy manner. Ideally, a child will be allowed to have a relationship with both parents without feeling a need to choose between them.
Children should be told that there was nothing they did to cause the end of the marriage. They should also know that there was nothing that they could have done to stop the divorce from happening. Parents may make the divorce easier on their kids by not telling them about it until it becomes official. Holding off on the announcement can make it easier to answer any questions that a son or daughter will likely have about what is happening.
Parents should make sure that their kids are subject to consistent rules regardless of which parent they are with. This can make life less confusing for a minor regardless of how old he or she is at the time of the divorce. If possible, parents should spend time with their children together. Spending time as a family can make a child happy as well as avoid situations where a child could feel forced to choose between pleasing one parent and angering the other.
The best interests of the child should be the top priority when creating a parenting plan. Mothers and fathers should try to be as flexible as possible when it comes to how parenting time will be allocated. Those who are having trouble coming to an agreement on their own may benefit from speaking with an attorney or a mediator to help resolve their differences.