Emotions can run high and co-parenting can be a challenge when a couple is divorcing. Parents certainly want the best for their children, including protecting them from stressful situations. Some parents have found that nesting is an answer to their predicament of who will live where and with which parent shortly after divorce. In nesting, the kids stay put in the family home, and the parents swap separate living spaces back and forth according to an agreed-upon schedule.
The key to the idea of nesting working out is that parents must be capable of getting along well. It is advised that families only use this as a temporary solution until final decisions are made in child custody matters and other legal issues. If nesting goes on too long, therapists agree that children may get mixed messages that cause them to think their parents might reconcile the marriage.
About two years ago, actress Gwyneth Paltrow and her husband Chris Martin managed a very civil end of marriage that included effective co-parenting. The pair decided early on that their two children would get quality parenting time from both parents.
Children need stability in their lives, and parents can do their best to keep as many aspects of life as consistent as possible for everyone involved. If grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins along with good family friends are part of kids’ lives before the divorce, contact with those people likely needs to be maintained.
When parents choose to divorce, it may be wise for each parent to have their own attorney early in the process. The more agreements a couple can come to ahead of family court proceedings, the better off everyone may be. A family law attorney might offer advice regarding any issues that arise during a divorce.