Parents who go through a divorce have to do what’s best for their child in the custody matter. This isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary.
There are a few things that can make custody matters much more difficult. Instead of succumbing to these errors, recognize them so you can avoid them.
Mistake 1: Living in the past
A person who was a horrible partner can still be an amazing parent. Instead of falling into thinking about what led to the divorce, pay attention to how your ex and the children are interacting. Focusing on the kids can make the custody arrangements much easier to deal with.
Mistake 2: Making the child move between homes
One of the most stressful parts of being a child who has divorced parents is likely going to be having to pack a bag to go back and forth. Instead of making the child do this, try to have things for them at both homes. Knowing that they don’t have to pack can make this easier for them. It may also be easier for them to remember to bring things that can’t be duplicated, such as schoolbooks.
Mistake 3: Communicating through the children
Always communicate directly with your ex. Making the children relay messages can mean that things don’t get repeated correctly. There’s also the chance that the child will have to deal with a negative reaction from a parent about the message. Direct communication between the adults can help to prevent a lot of problems.
Mistake 4: Trying to steal acceptance
You shouldn’t ever try to gain your child’s acceptance by being lax with the rules. Instead, set the expectations for your home. This will make your child’s adjustment to your home much easier. If possible, try to work with your ex to have some of the major rules, such as bedtime and homework requirements the same for both homes.
The parenting plan you have set is the backbone of the child custody arrangement. Making sure that you get this set with the child’s best interests at heart is crucial. These situations sometimes require creative solutions to problems, so work with someone who can help you come up with those.