Handling parenting time during holidays and school breaks can be challenging, particularly in the context of a divorce or separation. In North Carolina, the law emphasizes the child’s best interests, and this principle guides the courts in making decisions about custody and visitation schedules. Many strategies can help parents manage this time during the Christmas and New Year holidays as well as the upcoming Spring Break, helping to better ensure that both parents and children can enjoy these periods to the fullest. The following tips can help.
#1: Establish a holiday parenting plan
Those who are currently going through a divorce or recently divorced likely have a parenting plan in place. This plan should address how to split time during the holidays. Review the agreement and plan accordingly. Common arrangements often include either alternating major holidays between each parent or, for longer celebrations and where the parents are in close proximity, splitting the holiday.
#2: Focus on the future
The Christmas and New Year holidays often hold significant emotional value for many families. It is important to handle these times with extra care. Remember, change is difficult not just for the parents but also for the children. Although the holidays will be different after divorce, it can serve as an opportunity to make new family memories. You and your children may find yourself looking forward to these new traditions, helping to continue to build family bonds after the divorce.
#3: Start planning for Spring Break
Spring Break offers a longer block of time, which parents can choose to split or alternate. Again, the arrangement is likely dictated by the parenting plan agreed upon during the divorce, so refer to this agreement before making plans. After reviewing this document, it is generally helpful to consider the following before moving forward with plans for spring break:
- Advance discussion about travel plans to ensure that both parents are informed.
- Consider the child’s interests and any special events during this time.
Negotiating parenting time over holidays and school breaks in North Carolina requires careful consideration and cooperation between parents. By focusing on the child’s best interests and maintaining open lines of communication, parents can create a holiday schedule that works for everyone involved.